Friday, May 18, 2012
The Best of Intentions
Kelly and I are sitting here acting like we did in college. Working a little on our projects, chatting a little, and just generally being together. Funny how that works. You find yourself comfortable with someone and old patterns resume without a single thought.
Conversation, work, and respect for one another's process and goals fall into place easily when two people know one another well. With friends like that it's easy to keep track of one's intentions and not feel guilty about pursuing those intentions.
It can be easy to let work slide, to let goals slide, to let routines slide while travelling, visiting, and researching. When a friend is a friend such as Kelly, that friend will accompany you on a research day that is fun for all and be patient and understanding that your research must take precendence to the day's fun. It is interesting how some people do this well and others don't do it so well.
Yesterday, Kelly and her daughters accompanied me to Cumberland State Falls because I needed to visit it for the novel I'm writing. They helped me, paid attention to what I needed to do, and still enjoyed the day. We enjoyed the time together without stressing over the next minute or the next. Kelly understood my intentions to do what I needed to do while spending time with her.
So, while some of my intentions for this trip haven't panned out, some have. I've done my research and now I've written a blog. I may not have managed to keep everything as current as I would've liked, but I've gone with the flow and enjoyed my trip.
My intentions are always to keep my end goal in mind and to be flexible. It's great when people understand and support those goals. But it's even more important that I remember and support my goals and my intentions while maintaining the flexibility necessary to enjoy life as it develops! I feel like I'm getting better at it every day!
T. L. Cooper grew up on a farm in Tollesboro, Kentucky. She earned a Bachelor of Science from Eastern Kentucky University. Her poems, short stories, articles, and essays have appeared online, in books, and in magazines. Her published work includes a novel, All She Ever Wanted and four books of poetry. When not writing, she enjoys yoga, golf, and traveling. Currently, she resides in Albany, Oregon.