Thursday, July 26, 2012

An Experiment in Positive Focus

A few days ago I decided to break a negative mood by designing a little experiment to remind myself to be positive. For twelve hours, I stopped once every hour (yes, I set a timer) to focus my thoughts on something positive, either a thought or an action.


I decided to post these thoughts to Facebook without telling anyone why I was posting them.I posted my first positive thought/action at approximately 12:19PM and posted my last positive thought/action at approximately 11:30PM.


The posts:


  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 1: I feel good that I stood up for something I believe this morning.
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 2: I feel great that I finished writing my blog post about Writers on the Move and that I left positive comments on two other authors blogs today!
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 3: When the power went out, I made good use of the time by altering my plans instead of lamenting what I couldn't do without power. :-)
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 4: I can be strong and caring concurrently...
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 5: Smiling makes me feel better even when no one can see it, so I'm smiling right now. :-)
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 6: My thoughts are just as valuable as anyone else's.
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 7: Living from a place of love invites incredible experiences and people into my life!
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 8: Refused to let someone else's negative comment affect my positive attitude.
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 9: If I do my part and let the rest go, things will work out the way they're supposed to - what I call proactive waiting.
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 10: When I acknowledge and accept that I deserve better, I open my life to receive better.
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 11: When I let my heart guide me, my words are more likely to connect with other people.
  • Positive Thought/Action Hour 12: Each moment I inhabit is a moment that matters.


I wanted to see what would happen if I set an intention to turn my attention to the positive at regular intervals during the day. Initially, I wanted to be able to pick some thought or action from the previous hour that was positive. Some hours it worked. Other hours, I had to actually stop and focus on positive thoughts to feel the positiveness.

The time I took to focus on positive thoughts made the hour between each posting feel more positive and productive even if I wasn't having conscious positive thoughts and/or performing overt positive acts. I felt more upbeat and productive.


The negative voice in my head pointing out all the things I hadn't accomplished and still needed to do grew quieter. The positive voice spoke quietly but with so much more authority than the negative voice. The positive voice reminded me of all I have to offer the world and gave me a break for not being perfect. The positive voice told me I deserve the best from all aspects of my life. The positive voice boldly told me I have the right to be treated as a top priority by myself and by others.


I turned around a negative mood created by caring too much about other people's attitude and behavior toward me with positive thoughts and actions that reminded me I am lovable, worthwhile, and worthy. I remembered that I matter, and that perhaps, just perhaps, those who can't see my worth enough to make me a priority shouldn't matter quite so much to me.


It goes back to something I said last year about happiness. Making my worth dependent on someone else gives them too much power, power that should belong to me.

2 comments:

  1. What a great experiment. The power does belong to you. You just have to take it.

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  2. Thank you, Johanna! It actually turned out to be kind of fun! And, yes, we must embody our own power! :-)

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