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It's October, also known as Domestic Violence Awareness Month and Breast Cancer Awareness Month . I find it a bit interesting that we, as a society, have combined these two awareness campaigns in the same month. If I looked hard enough, I'm sure I could find a way to connect them. However, let's focus on Domestic Violence Awareness Month and the No More Campaign. I first wrote about No More back in 2015, when I wrote No More... Excuses... No More . We live in a world that seems to be waking up... maybe. But how many times can we say No More? We also live in a world that far too often excuses the behavior of those in power, whether in a large corporation, a small company, or even the home until forced to believe the truth when the evidence once dismissed piles up so high it threatens to topple over and crush all in its wake. Can we keep on this way? Society blames the victim. Society shames the victim. Society silences the victim. And, let's be clea...

Sex... Sexual harassment... Sexual abuse... Sexual assault... We wrap anything related to sex up in so much shame and guilt that it imprisons us in our own minds convincing us no one will ever believe us, that we should be ashamed for someone else's actions, that keeping quiet is the best way forward. People ask "Why didn't she report it?" I know my story will resonate with many women, and some men, too, because it's not a new story. It's been going on for ages. And occasionally a scandal brings it to light and we all look for ways to be make it better, to find common ground, to not need to say "Me Too." And, then the fervor dies down and we all go about our lives until the next time. Will this time finally be the one that's different? We can hope... Still fairly fragile from being sexually assaulted in college , I started an office job at a cabling company(now out of business if my research is accurate) in Lexington, Kentucky....

Last week Secretary of Education Betsy DeVos announced that she intends to dismantle the Dear Colleague Letter Guidelines that have given survivors of sexual assault more respect in the reporting and investigatory process of sexual assault by utilizing the protections in Title IX to a safe learning environment. Shortly before her announcement I posted  Sexual Assault Happens... Then What? , my post to raise awareness about the importance of taking campus sexual assault seriously and urge people to stand up for survivors. Upon learning of Secretary DeVos' decision to dismantle those guidelines, I wrote a letter to the current President of EKU, Michael T. Benson. As an alumna of EKU and a survivor of campus sexual assault I feel a duty to urge my alma mater to be a leader in the adherence of Title IX using the Dear Colleague Letter Guidelines to take campus sexual assault seriously and providing the support survivors need to move forward. Here is the open letter ...

I started this post over a year ago after I watched The Hunting Ground , a documentary about sexual assault on campuses and the way universities handle sexual assault on campus. I've come back to it multiple times but have hesitated to publish it yet I couldn't bring myself to delete it. So... With today's announcement regarding the plan to eliminate Title IX protection for survivors, I must speak up. I can no longer be silent. The Hunting Ground affected me deeply. I stopped it several times when I needed to think and feel and cry and rewind to listen again. (Currently available on  Netflix and streaming or DVD purchase on Amazon.) As I watched, many thoughts went through my mind. I am still dumbfounded by the way universities dismiss and/or minimize sexual assault complaints. I suppose admitting the number of campus sexual assaults on their individual campuses might deter some potential students, but... Sexual assault happens. It happens in every community. It happ...

It's been a while since I posted a blog and even longer since I shared a new poem... Yesterday I read a poem, The Other Side of You , by my poet friend, Butch Knight. The entire time I read I kept thinking "Meet me on the other side of you" and today those words morphed into the poem below. You can read Butch's poem,  The Other Side of You , now or later. And, here's mine... Meet Me on the Other Side of You                                                                               Meet me on the other side of you Where the river filled with your tears flows Where the mountain scarred with your heartache rises up Where the valley of your vulnerability hides in the shadows Where your nakedness stands in the beaming moonlight Meet me on the other side of you W...

Today I talk about how Kentucky influenced my life and my writing on the blog, 50 Authors from 50 States. The blog offers a glimpse into my complex relationship with the state of my birth... Please check it out... 50 Authors from 50 States

My adherence to the idea that living from a foundation of love has gotten me more than a few patronizing smiles. But I cling to the idea that the more love we put into the world, the less hate there is to multiply. It's so much easier to hear one another when we approach one another from a place of love instead of a place of hate. People coming together at the Women's March in Salem, Oregon January 21, 2017 I've always thought we could bring people together by sharing our lives with all their differences and similarities. Lately, I've been doubting that. Some people seem so determined to hate that there's no reaching them. In a way, I almost feel sorry for those people. They cheat themselves out of so many glorious experiences, so many unique and beautiful moments, so much happiness just so they can cling to stereotypes and hatred, just so they can rail against a perceived enemy. When someone says "but not this one person I/you know" when making sw...